SIL lives in Foreign Country. SIL and I have never been close -- she doesn't really "do" close, as she puts it -- but we haven't been enemies. A mutual acquaintance who knows SIL and WAW and me, and who lives in Foreign Country near SIL, emails me today: Hey, Smiley's Person, what the effin' h*ll is wrong with you?? I thought I knew you, but I didn't know what a d*ck you were.
Well now. That's an eye-opener at 7 in the morning.
So I open up a fresh can of What-the-F*ck and send it to now-Former Mutual Acquaintance.
Well, well, well.
Dude, [SIL] told me about all the sh*t you're laying on [Mrs. SP]. Are you nuts? You demanded alimony for life? You did nothing while she worked, she supported you during the marriage and now she's supposed to support you for your entire life after?
Well, well, well. Now that sounds an awful lot like the exact things WAW said during the Batsh*t-Crazy-a-Thon. SIL would never have known about the "for life" concept had WAW not brought it up -- and why do I feel justified in mind-reading that WAW brought it up to her?
That phrase -- "lifetime support" -- was used by an attorney, not by me, and in fact I specifically told WAW during the Batsh*t-Crazy-a-Thon that I did not expect to be receiving alimony checks for literally "for life."
But it's her best card in the Sympathy Sweepstakes, you see.
So I ask Former Mutual Acquaintance, "Ummmm, when exactly did you have this convo with SIL?"
Yesterday, man, she was on the phone with her sister.
It's been at least 2 weeks -- more like a month -- since I told WAW this was not the case.
I'm not going to ask, "Why?" because there is no answer.
But it damn sure is going to figure in the What Next computations I'm running this weekend.
SP- Prepare to be slandered. I'm just saying. Hopefully she will keep it to a minimum but I doubt it.
I'm sorry. Been through some of that and I'm certain there is more to come.
Really, remember, what other people think of you is none of your business. AND, once it is over, it will be clearly defined and harder for her to make sh*t up.
Is this what we have to look forward to? W already got what she wanted. Leave me the F alone.
I feel so bad you have to go thru this Smiley.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
Dude, [SIL] told me about all the sh*t you're laying on [Mrs. SP]. Are you nuts? You demanded alimony for life? You did nothing while she worked, she supported you during the marriage and now she's supposed to support you for your entire life after
What's the old expression? never wrestle with a pig, you get dirty and the pig likes it. This guy has no business taking shots at you.
I can't get to YouTube from work. But there is a band called The CodeTalkers and they have a song called "Saved by the Same Thing." It's all about mojo. I know there is a video there, check it out. Can't find the lyrics on-line but I think it could become your new theme song.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I think this qualifies for a confrontation too. Why not let her know that you are aware that she is bad-mouthing you to others, and it is not helping her situation. You have not decided what you consider a fair settlement, but if she is telling everyone that you want alimony for life, and you are entitled to it, then maybe you will change your mind and go for it!
