Tonight, right after the kids and I finished doing prayers (where D9 has taken to thanking God for her Daddy being home and restoring our family-positive affirmation) Slow Fade came on and then While I'm Waiting--back to back. D9 looked up and said, God, you are so awesome. What a great warrior she is.
SMW,
As usual you sound great! I am glad that you are not getting sucked into the drama of DH's antics. He is coming back to you....albeit slowly...but, we know who is in control anyway, right? The only bit of "advice" I want to share is that I think the talk of filing can be harmful. I believe you are far better off to maintain the stance you have been taking which is to let God handle the timing. If HE tells you to file, well then I would march right on down!
As a rule, I do not discuss filing--it was a comment made in passing by a friend. I certainly NEVER discuss it with DH!
I am glad you see some movement, as I do not--but then again, I guess when yo are in the thick of things you rarely do. I am trusting in God to take care of things in his time.
DH has taken another step toward separating things--assuming all of the debt on a joint credit card and having me removed from it. He did not even have the nerve to tell me, I found out when I went in to make a payment on it from using it to go to my cousin's wedding. It was the first time I have used it at all since he left. Whatever. Now all of the debt on it is his. The bank assured me I am no longer legally responsible for it.
I am prepared for the possibility that things may have to end completely before restoration can occur, but I certainly hope that is not God's plan. I do not want to put my kids through that.
I will calmly discuss the way DH handled the credit card on Sunday evening. It was cowardly and I could speculate on lots of reasons why he did it--mostly that he wanted to use it for while OW is here and there was not enough available, but honestly, does it really matter? It is done and I cannot change it. I continue to move forward and know that I serve a mighty God who is completely in control.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
