Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[MrBond]

25, you are sooo right! Miracles happen all the time. I just have to spend a few minutes with my Ds that I know it's true.

In terms of some situations seeming "hopeless". I don't think any situation is hopeless. You make the .

I was thinking the other day of all the things I had done to attract my W back to how we are today. I thought about the gifts, the pleading before and even the arguments. Then I thought about the time when we were first dating and I didn't care one way or the other if she were my GF or not. At that time I presented myself as an attractive package, but it was up to her whether or not she wanted to open it.

The detachment helps to see that. Like the title of my thread, once you really understand that there is nothing you can do to change your spouse's mind, then you do what you want to do. I choose not to date anyone because I don't want my Ds seeing dad going out with OW when mom is there too.

Right now my W knows everything I have to offer. It's up to her whether or not she wants it. Her choice isn't necessarily a "miracle" it is an opinion. She has to measure the pros and cons and if the pros are better than the cons, then she'll stay. The same thing with the LBS. Some get to the point where the cons start outweighing the pros and even when the WAS wants to come back, the LBS doesn't want them any more. It's the constant re-evaluation of the pros and cons that help us to determine whether we continue trying or not.

We are so used to putting our WAS above us, that we forget that they are only human. That's where the fear sets in and we are afraid to do things that make us happy too.

The ability to destroy is easy. The ability to create, that's the miracle.

Just my 2 cents.