I do believe you`re right re H opening a new chapter.His taking the kids to his folks without me is his way of presenting himself as a separated Dad. He is so angry and bitter towards me I don`t believe he feels he can ever forgive me.
However, I believe myself that he can eventually get to the point of forgiving. I just have to stay with the changes and keep patient. Easy, right?!
He hasn`t acknowleged my changes to himself. In fact I don`t believe he feels they`re real. He can`t trust them. That`s to be expected. I just have to keep showing him those changes very consistently.
I expect he`ll actually be even more withdrawn when he returns. Inevitably there`ll be a family confab re our sitch and his family will batten down the hatches, close ranks and advise him to protect his finances and custody of the kids etc.
I`m working this one piece at a time. And since he revealed his concern re our intimacy issues,-specifically my apparent shortfall in that department-I`m working on that one.
It truly is an area where action can speak louder than words. But I won`t pursue him on this. He has had the benefit of our deep conversation on the issue last Weds. He knows he can sample the fruits of my labours if he chooses to do so. If he stays backed off that is where he has to stay.
I suspect his head is telling him-and his family-its over. But deep in his subconscious mind there is a little spark that can become the flame.
