You were talking about how your W thought you had placed your job over her b/c of the long hours you spent there. The sad fact is that a lot of us were not taught things about the opposite sex and how they think. I had been grown for many years before I heard it explained that to "men" they show how much they love their families by how hard they work on their jobs. Well......I DID NOT KNOW THAT! WHY DIDN'T SOMEBODY TELL ME THAT YEARS BEFORE THAT? We women place so much value in emotions. That was my problem with my H was the fact he could not talk about his "feelings" to me. It's all about spending time together and showing affection, and stuff like that that is important to women. ESPECIALLY before most women had careers of their own and was so busy they didn't know which end was up. Now, the women are working as long hours as their H's and that hurts the MR even worse.
Anyway, I couldn't help but think about that when you made that statement. Have you EVER considered telling your W that "she" was the reason that you worked so hard? If you never put it into words (and how many men haven't), then how will she know?
Just a thought.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
