Had a bad day yesterday... 1st time in a while.. I could not sleep last night and was thinking about all the ways this sitch could turn out and how I would deal with within the DB principles. My problem is my W and I have no kids so it is pretty much to the point we don't necessarily have to have any contact at all. I guess I felt stuck yesterday. Anyway, it has been 17 days since we had any contact. I am not sure if it is a good idea or not but esp. since I am away on business I am sticking with not initiating. Like I said in earlier posts she did seem a little 'softer' than the last few times we saw each other. Is it a good idea to actually back off or seem to back off more when it seems like there is improvement? My DB counselor has suggested the 'dim' technique and I have had my chances to do that but I have been dim for a little while now. Hopefully I can talk to her (db coach) after this trip. Sandi2 I esp hope you have some input for me. I actually am feeling much better today fortunately.
