Just a quick drop by: You thought he would change to suit your life and he probably thought the same of you. He told you he didn't want another cat (it could have been anything) but you did it anyway.

You didn't have enough respect for him to take his position seriously because obviously there are so many ways around it. You explain all of them here. But it isn't about the options to him, it is about the respect and then going behind his back anyway. The final straw as you know is that you didn't take him seriously and you chose the cat.

What if it had been something you didn't consider absurd, he doesn't know that you wouldn't respect his choices because you didn't respect this one on something he was pretty clear about.

You obviously love your pets and he doesn't want them. This choice is totally in your hands. But I think you already chose. Not trying to take sides just trying to break down a bit.

kat

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