I completely agree. being that I feel like I've done this over tons. Just to give some of my history, at first when ow would harass me, she use to tell my H that I'm harrassing her. He was conflicted and I would get upset that he didn't even believe me for sure. Then she would know that we're fighting about it. Then she would send me messages about her and H and we would fight again. Now that I'm at a place where I could care less (what is a text anyway otehr than electronic words is what I say), it's so much more peaceful adn in H's eyes, she looks like th freak. Have her look like the trouble maker. Doodles, I think you could eventually but maybe do waht I did and tell him at a later time and show that it wasn't even bothering you anymore. Be nonchalant... "ah she is so crazy but her craziness isn't bothering me anymore." It changes the whole cat and mouse game. IMHO
