Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Coach]

Tough one buddy. This might the time for a little reality R talk. Business like and with facts. Lay it out.

Retro- $400 plus some time (X hrs) can help us sort out where we go, get Divorced or work on our family. This is voluntary.

Don't go= Limboland (and she called it, you get to live it)
Let's talk about the reality if we don't go (how long are you going to stay in Limbo?)

Seperate then divorce.
$ for two households(>$400?) monthly
retainer for lawyers ($5000/each) just to get started
kids will be changed forever
quality of life will decrease for all of us
are your kids in private school?

Your lawyer will want to know that your wife did not want to attend.

You can use this as a decision tree. It's one of those paradoxes. Plan out what you want either way. Her choice should have some consequences. Let her know where you stand very clearly. It helped me in the long run that my wife saw me fighting for her, our marriage and our family (didn't change her leaving/filing but I gained respect.)
Do you find the staus quo acceptable? Leaders have to make tough choices. Approach this from a loving standpoint, make it win-win. What would you tell someone like GIMA or Stuck to do in this sitch?

You can handle it.

Cheers
Coach