I certainly don't know my way around the 'legal jungle', or all the different tiers of the justice system, but isn't there some one/place that you can place a complaint with as far as this judge?
Where the case could be looked at with a fine tooth comb to see if the right judgements were handed down, if there was contempt of court by your husband, etc. etc.
Isn't there some American Bar Association or something where judges can be 'reported'?
Something stinks to high heaven, we all know that...and it seems to center around this judge. There's no way in h@ll that things would have played out this way if it weren't for him...
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
You are right Creed, it does stink.... but I don't know how to report it, or find someone to look at what has gone on.
I thought I had some help coming from the government, because of the HPPA laws, but I haven't seen anything as of yet. Dick was allowed to read my psychological evaluation, and stated so in court.... but I guess nothing is going to happen there either.
I'm a sinking ship, I guess. It just hurts me to watch the children loose so much of their innocents and their childhood.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Laughing, Before you can help your children, you must first help yourself. Get back on your feet, health wise, and then go from there. Always remember what they tell you on the airliners....face mask on you first and then your children. The same will apply here as well.
Your health, both physically and emotionally need to be stronger. They both have taken a beating over the last few years. Think of ways to help yourself. Once you are stronger and can get back up on your feet (stronger), then go for the gusto.
Your children are old enough to have a say in the court about where they want to live now. I do hope and pray that things will make a turn for you and soon. Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
What you say is true and makes a lot of sense. If I had the down time, I would do exactly as you say.... apparently, there is no down time for the wicked.
Just announced, a company wide re-organization, with layoffs. Just in time for my July 22 hearing! Yeah, being laid off will help me gain custody won't it, it also means my medical insurance disappears too... I found this out Saturday morning, and this morning at 8:00 I have in interview at of all places a casino.... not my first choice, however, it is a job, and a job on day shift to boot, which was another thing Dick was going to use against me.
Keep your fingers crossed and pray things work out for the best or the way it is meant to be.
Yee-haa, on the road again!
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
How did the interview go? A day job would prove a stronger point for you, if that's what has been bugging the nut.
Please take care of yourself. I worry about you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
The interview was okay, I don't have a good feeling about it, unfortunately.
Worry? Who has time to worry?
More importantly, Dick is not going to bring the kids back for the hearing on July 22.... so he can stack the deck for himself and make sure the kids don't speak to the Judge.
Why is it I have the troubles in my life as I do, and his life appears to go his way, all the time?
I understand life is how we or I look at things, however, it seems as though Karma has been kicking my @ss all over the place, and I would think it should be the other way around.
Am I still living a life in denial? Am I pretending to be someone whom I am not?
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Hi Laughing, I don't really think that life is going Dick's way and that is why he is the way he is. I know it must be so hard to watch your children go through all of this but you have done a good job raising them and they will come through this. I know one day you and your children will have the peace you deserve. I know it is of little consolation to you now but just keep on going and finding that amazing strength you have. I will keep you in my prayers. Please take care of yourself. Your children need a healthy mom.
Ahhh, Mermaid, you are right, Dick is a very angry and hostil man. Just yesterday morning (July 7) Dick ran to the boys room, turned the light on at 4:00am. S, thinking that Jane's S left the light on, merely got up from the floor (yes, he sleeps on the floor) and shut the light off, and went back to sleep on the floor. Dick ran back to their room, flicked the light on, grabbed S, shook him then threw him into Jane's S. He looked at them both and said "Expect it gentlement, expect it."
Why was Dick angry? Because the boys, the night before were up watching a scary movie. They were up past midnight, S in four months will be 18, Jane's S almost 15 and it is summer vacation, so being up after midnight would be normal for most teens... Anyway, after the scary movie ended, Jane's S went into the bathroom, so S decided he'd scare J's S when he crossed the bathrooms threshold.... J's S let out a scream.
Pretty normal stuff, and most parents of mixed families would be happy if not proud the two boys were getting along.... oh, no, not Dick. He was pissed! Why? Because he was startled by the scream....
Instead of checking on the boys then, or getting up to ask the boys what happened or to quiet down, dick laid in bed, wide awake stewing over the "noise" the boys made. So, by the time his alarm went off, Dick claims he only had two hours sleep, and it was their fault.
It's more than obvious that Dick is no parent, doesn't have a parenting gene in his body. All it would have taken was a gentle reminder to the kids that others are sleeping, and to try to keep it quiet. Just a little understanding, that's all.
Now, the boys have to be in bed by 8:00pm, Dick's law, and he's taken away S's phone. Now S and I can't talk. S won't be able to vent to me, as he has for the past two months. I can't help him look towards tomorrow, or make sense or find peace with what is going on.... his anger will be building, possibly excalate to where he challenges or confronts Dick.
I've sent Dick a proposal, one where the children are asked where they want to live. If they choose to live with me, he can keep his "no support" order, and won't be financially responsible for either child, ever again.
He doesn't want them, he just doesn't want me to have them. Snodderly is right, he wants us all as miserable as he is. He is reliving his childhood, he has become his father, treating S just as he was treated himself. It's obvious he won't learn from what he is doing, he can't open his mind nor his heart the pain he is causing, because all he can see is himself and his own pain.
