My H said he wants a D, I'm devastated!

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michelle
the Mlcer is so confused
I saw acts of kindness my x also wanted to be friends and we were for the past few years
after I found out he ha dbeen living with OW for practically the whole time since he left
I decided to detach more
the D also made us distant
now we work together so we speak a lot
and we get along well
I am into new things with friends and I no longer want
to restore M
so yes
they want our friendship..maybe that relieves guilt maybe that helps them let go knowing we still are here in some form
some will and do return
friendship keeps the door open
you really only know what to do in time
it isnt over when they move out
when they file
when the D is final
we can do some of the deciding too
what course of action will we take
how long we will stand
when we will move on
if we want a friendship or not
if we want to go dark
we make decisions try things see if anything works then try something else
I can tell you I tried it all to the best of my ability
I have only reaslly let go dince the D in March and probably I only let go b/c I met a man and became somewhat involverd in Emotional R
so buckle up
you are doing great
peace