I have not talked to my W since Saturday, but then we talked last night, I asked what it would mean for her, if she wanted to remain in the M, and her response was, she didn't know.
She was clear on that she just has no feelings for me other than wanting to be friends, and absolutely no physical attraction any more. I tried to validate everything she said, but now I just don't know what to do.
She also stated she has nothing left to give for a relationship, and if she is ever to find love again, it will just happen, and she is not going to do any work on that at all.
I feel she is deep in MLC, and I have been trying to read up on it. She is saying she can't get over that she's 40 and her whole life has been about giving to other people, and all her physical changes are about this, and how now she wants to do only the things that are for her. I tried not to defend myself, but wound up doing that a bit when she started blaming me for everything wrong in our relationship, but also tried to just validate to her what she was feeling.
Clearly I don't know what to do at this point, do I take the reigns, and just move on from this thing and let her go? I don't feel she'll ever come back to me at this point.
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
