I don't think she's getting a "pass" at all. Doodles has made the tactical decision NOT to let the woman get a rise out of her, and to NOT let her husband see it getting a rise out of her, nor to make it look like she -- Doodles -- is in need of "rescue."
I think that's the right move. If Doodles were in a stronger emotional place right now that she could come across as a confident, laughing "omg, whatever! look at these messages, ha!" sort of thing, then maybe. But I think if she shows/mentions them to her husband, he will see her as being weak and whining.
