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[Sanderika]

Hi mdoodles....

I guess as far as the bills go....Don't remind the "avoiding" H verbally about them. Leave them out where H can look at them. H WILL LOOK. He will discuss it when he is able. Keep in mind he is aware and to keep reminding H about the problems in your home is driving him back into the tunnel. H will avoid to escape.

This is sooooo hard. Take the burden on alone. It's what I did. Try really hard to put the bad aside when H is there. Let the house and your little boy be Hs haven. He's getting enough storm with the "P-B". Give him a place of escape.

I am going to say it again. Read the texts. Start a journal only of the texts and calls from "P-B". Document times and dates and content or lack thereof. You need to be aware of her level of crazy. Only for yours and sons safety.

If H is annoyed by the constant mentioning by you then stop mentioning it. Keep the journal on the counter and let H look, when curiosity gets the best of him he will mention it. Start letting H mention things in H time when H ready to discuss them. You are better off to let him initiate a conversation, he will be more open to a discussion if it's his idea.

You could ramp up her anxiety by answering the phone when she calls and simply just say "I am so glad you called, you have a wonderful day" and hang up. She will boil. Keep up the appearance that she isn't getting to you. She will freak out and H will hear all about it, boy will he. He won't know what hit him when she is through.

Maybe if you can't beat her, join her at her own game, only mdoodles isn't going to be nasty or psycho, mdoodles is going to be sweet as honey!!!!

I wonder if this would stop her too if she knows she isn't getting to you. Just a thought. It would be funny to see her reaction.

I have posted a story about a friend whose D was final last friday on my thread. You might find it interesting.

Have a great day mdoodles. I hope something changes for the better for you.

(((((HUGS)))))

Sanderika