In a way I agree with Orangedog. This is all part of D. The financial and emotional separation the WS don't want to think about. Yes, it will be tough for your kids but let that be her burden to carry, not yours. I would do your D by the book whatever is fair. No need to be a jerk about it, but this is reality. I would hate to see you in 10 years regret being too nice.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
