Of course, as we talked, her continuing to speak of the years that went into her decision, the hurt she feels, the lack of trust, etc. I listened and validated. I made my point of understanding that but I have reached a point of change and I feel the marriage could be healed and that I don't think divorce will heal or fix her pain. But I said space and time will be good for both of us so separation is probably good, as we both have tough decisions ahead.
I don't think there's anything wrong with telling her that. It's possible to VALIDATE, without AGREEING. "I'm sorry you feel that way, I really am. I still feel that our marriage could be healed and I really don't think that divorce will heal or fix our pain. It's not what I what, but I hear you that you do."
