Thank you all for your replies! At one point my uncle called (who has developed relationship w him over the years) and he never called him back. My uncle doesn't live far and I wanted him to come and sit down and talk to us this weekend - to see if he could 'open' him up to counseling... but my uncle i think feels my husband is 'gone' already so i'm not sure if he'd help. He's also ignored my good friends - who were his too - friend requests. My husband is gone for 2 months this summer next week so I am very afraid if we don't talk now he'll become even more distant from me. He hasn't presented papers or pushed D but hinted at it and said it's over. We've been together 11 years, married 5, no kids (both age 32).
My goal now it to open him to attending Retrouvaille (through the church, it is a retreat weekend for separated couples on the verge of divorce). I don't know that he'd go under the purpose of saving marriage, but perhaps more to healing regardless of which way we go? The program is Sept so I feel like I need to mention this weekend (he already has materials on it but said 'what's the point if i've already made up my mind') as it's only a week after he gets back.
This is SO hard. I've read DR and totally backed off, but I feel like it's only making it easier for him to push me away/forget about me.
