I think stuck's W and mine are similar. Mine is not angry nor does she treat me with disrespect for the most part.
25, in response to your last post, I know for me it would appear to the outside world (non DB of course) that I am waiting on a miracle. But, I am not. I would like my W to work on our M, and I know it could be a new, MUCH better M than we had before. But, I also know that there may come a day when I have had enough, when I feel she has had enough time to make a decision about our M. Probably will be a LRT just before that.
But, my point is that I think I will know when "that time" is. Right now, I honestly do not know when that will be. I just know that it will come one day. I just have to know in my heart and mind that I did EVERYTHING I could to save our M before I can throw in the towel. My kids certainly deserve that effort.
Oh, and that effort does NOT involve me dating while I am still M'd. I do not know how one squares dating while M'd with respecting one's M vows/commitment - b/c I don't think you can. Otherwise, you have to take the position that "I sleptwith/dated OW to save the M"??!! Might be a bit off topic, but I thought it sort of related to your post.
