Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[25yearsmlc]

When I said "that's all I am saying about that" it was to the preceding idea, sheesh!....sandi sandi sandi...yi yi yi.

But Stuck, more importantly, I want to echo her comments about your post. "Say WHAT??" you made some Excellent comments. My feathers got ruffled by G-, not you, and it was completely b/c 1) I dislike being personally attacked, and 2) completely misquoted. I have NEVER told anyone to "wait around" but have always to each and everyone, said something along the lines of "GAL and DETACH" and still do...it's essential.
No matter what kevin or A/K do, GAL is still crucial for their well being. I don't retract that at all.

Not all situations are hopeless, but a lot seem to be. You are not there by a long shot Stuck, so no one here is "in denial" with you. Well, speaking for myself, I'm not. I believe there is a relatively large amount of hope in your sitch (relative to here at least).

But there is a dilemma and here's as good a place as any to pose it. What about the times we think, to ourselves, "Hey, I'm not God. But it sure looks hopeless from here"...?? I mean, I don't want to lie to anyone.

But aren't we supposed to try and help the person stay M as long as it's not dangerous for them to do so? Isn't that the premise of this place/site? I don't see any conflict at all, with urging the LBSer to GAL and often it does lead to moving on and detaching as it should and sometimes that gets the WAS and sometimes it does not. It isn't the goal of GAL. I cannot see how it hurts the sitch if done the way MWD suggests. But if we think "wow, that WAS is really out the door and this LBSer is wasting their time and ours" what is it we should be doing to be supportive but in a real way? I don't want to fill someone with false hope but again, who am I to say that a given person won't get a miracle? Do we stop posting? That seems cruel as the LBSer needs support more then, not less.

Anyone? Stuck, again, I'm not referring to your sitch (not yet anyhow!) but would like feedback from non=hostiles, if you know what I mean.

j-

PS speaking of miracles, my mil was dx 19 months ago with aggressive lung cancer with metastisis to her brain, spleen and pancreas. ALMOST no survival rate at 2 yrs. Like 2% and they are usually under the age of 50. She was Given 6-8 months WITH chemo and radiation. So she did it all. First, she Never got sick, (tired yes, sick, no). Lost her hair and maybe 10 lbs. That's it. Still kicking. No she is not cured but she has outlived every prediction and I recall my h, who is an MD saying "Why can't my mom be the 1% of patients who gets a miracle?" And indeed, why not? Same for these "hopeless M's" sometimes... miracles do happen