H wants a D so we can date...each other! WTF??!

[Trixi]

I haven't posted in for-ev-er.
I bought a POS trailer a few weeks ago that my H is helping me fix up. We plan to go on vacation for 10 days in August. We see each other every weekend, once during the week. He started coming with me to see my counselor because he is really good about helping both people see the other person's views. Sounds great, doesn't it?
Yeah, but....
today in counseling we are talking about how he is afraid if we live together again we will end up in a rut/go back to how things were. (nothing new there.) He also said that he can't seem to let me go; that clearly we love each other. He's very ambivalent. Near the end he is talking about how he doesn't like the piece of paper (ie the marriage) that is boxing us in. That we should start with a clean slate, date each other and if we want/it's working out, we can work towards getting married again and making a "real" commitment. He is completely serious about this.

I was upset (of course) and said that I thought he was underestimating the impact that a D would have on me/our relationship and the amount of work he would be creating for himself.
My counselor stepped in and said that he is going to walk us thru some communication techniques next time. (Like I said, it was right near the end of the session, so he was eager to stop us from heading too far down the path at that point.)

It seems to me that there must be some other way to deal with this without getting a divorce. I understand the concept of wanting a clean slate, but if we divorce, how would I ever believe he wouldn't do it again? Not to mention, he has said he doesn't want to get married again now that he "has two failed marriages". That he hadn't wanted to get married after his first marriage, but he took a chance with me and then I "disappeared" on him. (The stupid thyroid thing.)

I feel like I am in the twilight zone. I don't understand wtf is going on. I can't imagine agreeing to get a divorce AND dating him at the same time.