WAS seeing reality?

[v1olin]

My wife got a letter in the mail but I do not know if she got my response from my lawyer yet. I could see that the letter she got was a bill of some kind, $1,000. ouch!
i have been very dark for about a week now but should I initiate more talks about day to day stuff or stay dark? not sure if it is working. A 180 for me would be to be more understanding, empathetic, maybe just listen. We have been seperated now for 3 months and 10 days. No hugs,or touching of any kind for almost 3 months is killing me. I want to just hold her hand and tell her I know I screwed up but that I have changed.
She called me yesterday to tell me that she would have to stay at work and could not pick up D7 on time. She asked if her mother could come and pick her up instead. I agreed because I was going across town after work to pick up D2. She called back before the end of the work day and said that she could pick up D7 after all. I could tell in her voice that work was causing her alot of stress. I was back home with D2 and decided to call her cell to offer to start dinner for them before they got home. She said that would be a big help. I then asked if the problem at work had worked itself out. She started talking about it and I just ler her talk. She seemed very comfortable talking to me. I decided to end the convo first and got off the phone in an up-beat tone. She got home and then I told her that I was going to change D2's diaper and then I was going to go out to dinner with some friends. She apologized for "all of the confusion" and I just said "I have a much higher tolerance for it than I used to." I looked up and she had a type of smile on her face that said, " I'm sorry" So, how am I doing? Should I try to come out of the dark more?