I'm living alone in an apartment because she said that she could not live with anyone and she wanted a divorce. Rather than inconveniencing her, I offered to move out in the hope that she would take my willingness to give her some space as a sign that I wanted to provide her with the support that she requested, and I hoped that it would warm her up to a reconciliation.
Now, we are into lawyers and separation proposals, and I don't want any part of the legal finality.
Ugh. Had you been posting back then, everyone would have told you NOT to move out. It rarely, if ever, works to score you points, and if anything it loses you respect.
I agree with SG that the depression is probably what you should focus on right now, plus DETACHING COMPLETELY. It's not easy, but it can certainly be done. The other thing I would suggest is to resist your urge to RESCUE her -- that seems to be a history with you.
