It went. I'm not sure what is going to come of this whole thing. Today resulted in me saying that I will notify him right away about medical issues with the kids (I had been emailing him within a day or two, and he'd like it sooner; whatever). He'd like to be able to have both of us go to events for the kids; I said I would if I was assured that his gf would not be there. The IC pointed out that this is where I was, that it must be incredibly difficult for me to be put into those situations, and could he meet those parameters - he said yes.
I brought up how he discounts anything that I have to say if he doesn't like it, in regards to the kids and how they are dealing with things. That S14 will talk about things with me and just isn't interested in doing that with him. One of the goals was to educate us on the effects of divorce on the kids, and make the best of it.
I said that I'd like to have right of first refusal if he wasn't going to be around during his visitation (like this Saturday). He agreed, but after this Saturday. I asked that they be supervised, since I just heard how the oldest girl there sprayed her sleeve with perfume and set it on fire with a lighter to show the younger kids, including mine.
I was happy with the way that the IC kept things on track; she noted when she felt tension and emotion but brought things back. I know that I needed that, and it felt safer.
When I went outside, he hung around long enough to angrily tell me that I should not be demonizing everyone at his house, especially since I wasn't with S14 at the BMX track, where x feels he should be supervised. He yelled, "Weren't you the one who grew up with that kid who killed animals?" (um, he was a product of DIVORCE, idiot! - talk about harping back to the past) - I just said yeah, and look how well I turned out. He left in disgust, and I don't care.
