Don't involve them. DB was so right in saying not to involve friends or family.
My W was P.O.'d and it took awhile for me to re-establish the trust. Plus everyone on her family sided with her even though they told me she was wrong and they were ashamed of her.
I notice that's how it is with most of the stories here. Don't do it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.