K4D Rising #3

[MrBond]

Don't worry about it. We all go through this.

Friends are great and all, but they are like your M, they can become a crutch. That's why it's important to rely on your own strength and heal. You're a spiritual guy, so God can be a big part of it.

It's when you are happy with no one but yourself is when you know you are detached.

[25yearsmlc]

K4,

Glad you are making some progress. Maybe doesn't feel like it, but it is a form of progress when you finally get through a day without aching in pain from her absence.

Also, can you pray for God's guidance and strength instead of exclusively believing that the only way you can be happy with with HER? It is a lie. If it were true that she was the ONLY KEY to your happiness how realistic or fair is that? You think all the widows/widowers in the world, even the orphans, are ALWAYS unhappy the rest of their lives? They are not. They move forward and learn to laugh and even love, again.

You can too. You have to. Seriously, do you want to make a choice to be sad?
No you don't.
j-

[K4D]

I do pray for guidance and strength as well. No, I don't want to be sad. I think I am just in acceptance mode. So I am just hanging out with friends and reading and praying and doing the other things I need to be doing. I am taking dance lessons now.

I still need to get a bike and I have got to start lifting weights.

I get to see my kids tonight. YAY!!!

Kevin

[K4D]

I figured out what it is. Our S's are just playing hard to get. See, its a game. We just have to do reverse pschology and play hard to get back at them. Next thing ya know, its fixed. Silly me for not figuring this out sooner.

I'm a genius in my own mind. Oh well, back to work.

Kevin

[25yearsmlc]

you're kidding, right?
j-

[K4D]

Yes, I am kidding. But in a way, it is kind of like DBing if you think about it as far as playing hard to get. Being mysterious and working on thy self and not being available.

But I know she isn't playing hard to get.

See, deep down inside she really loves me. She just doesn't know it. It's up to me to show her that she really loves me. And to do that, I must play hard to get.

Ok, enough of the fun and games. I have work to do.

Kevin

[K4D]

Actually, many many months ago I was talking to her and said "ok, you got me on that one. Hahaha. Very funny. That was a good joke". I looked at her and there was no smile. Dang it.

Kevin

[25yearsmlc]

as long as you are "playing hard to get" and mean GAL, and you are doing it for you and not as a tactic, who knows?

But those "conditions" need to be met really. Or you are simply still pursuing and still NOT GAL...more of the same old. Seems to me you are taking 2 steps forward and one back...we'll see


j-

[K4D]

As if I needed to hear more. D11 asks me tonite if me and W are D'd or separated. I said we are separated. D11 then tells me that she heard W telling someone on the phone that we are divorced and have been. I told D11 that is not true. We are separated and there is not even a D pending right now.

Then D7 tells me that she wanted to call me and tell me goodnight and W would not let her. Both kids have lost their cell phones. Frusturating.

Kevin

[CityGirl]

So basically you told your daughter D11 that her mom was a liar? Why didnt you just say that its not nice to listen when people are on the phone and leave it at that?

Now your D will go back and tell your W that you said that ya'll were not divorced but separated and your D *will* tell your W that you said it isnt true.

And why on earth would you tell an 11yo about legalities like "nothing pending with a divorce"?

You sound kind of odd today - what is the deal?