Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[mishka422]

Because of her my S has no respect for his father.

Because of her my H is no longer the honorable man I married.

Because of her I am living a nightmare.

Because of her my H no longer shares his emotions with me.

Because of her? Wrong. Because of your H and no one else. He made all of these choices, he created the mess and now you have to live with it and so does he. OW is obviously lacking any kind of moral compass (unless she does not know he is married which from what you have said she does know). She has her own issues. Your problem is not with her though, it is with your H. Make a stand, lay down the law regarding what is and is not acceptable in your house and enforce the boundaries.

Your H shows an insane amount of disrespect not only for you and your M, but your S! Only a truly sick individual would talk to OW in front of his own child. Throwing OW in your S's face that way shows that your H is sick and twisted in the head. All of this may come back to haunt him in custody hearings, trust me. I ended up with full custody because my xh didn't want his OW put on the stand. My L was ready to air every piece of her dirty laundry and trust me, it was sizeable - most of it my xh didn't know but found out when my L laid it in front of him to get him to sign the papers.

Protect your S Ash! Give your H boundaries - NOW.