Yay!!!!! Finally a new thread.

[25yearsmlc]

25, I must have miscommunicated. If anything, I think I set the bar too high. I am hoping that the projects I am putting my energy into will garner enough income to keep me from having to go the "anything" route. I am very excited about them. It is a bit of a game of chicken as to whether I can make something happen in time to be on my own.

And, I did watch The Secret and within reason I see the possibilities.
BTW I'm not exactly convinced that all it takes is positive imaging of course. (I thought the book and concept were not very novel and could not believe that it was received as if some profound concept had just been discovered...anyhow....)

Truth be told, the clearer I get as to what I am capable of and interested in, the more opportunities are trickling in. Nothing too stable yet but I am putting it out there and hoping that a PMA and focusing on what I want will pay off.

I also understand that sometimes you've got to do what you gotta do.

Amen to that. Been there, done that. Worst job I ever had was right after finishing college, so that was a super nice 'reward'...not...And some of my friends in law school had very dreary jobs but as you say, "you do what you gotta do". My best friend in law school who made the most money was a waiter, btw. Whatever. I know that if my kids need food, there's no legal job I would not take. I'm not too proud for that if it's my kids mouths that need food.

But you are nowhere near that spot are you? Aren't we just discussing some serious downsizing but not lowering of a safety standard? (I'm not minimizing the emotional part, but for a minute just focusing on the logistics).

You need to live in a place that has good enough schools, which usually goes along with relatively safe places and neighborhoods. It has to be affordable, and the one thing good about this recession is that prices are lower now. Keep it simple A/K. You don't have to have your whole life planned out by tuesday at 4 pm, in order to move forward. KWIM? I think you are ripe for growth and movement and you are really getting there.

Try hard not to give in to the periodic panic attacks we all have. I had a woman doctor client who told me she was afraid of being on her own despite a terrible M with violence. She said she feared being on her own b/c maybe she'd "end up on welfare" and I was baffled. She had a part time job with a low 6 figure income...(She stayed at home with the kids half time, but stayed current in her field, obviously). It just reminded me of how much fear can play in our lives. She had the means for more than mere survival, but was literally terrified. Child care and the logistics, being alone, etc. really were paralyzing her. IT happens to all of us. You just have to move forward despite the fears. Keep it real and face what is realistically the worst case scenario and you may find that it is actually not so terrible. I figured at one point if I ended up living with a sister in her basement, I could survive that too. You can too. You have parents who are available if necessary. And we're here for you.

As others have said elsewhere, you really will be alright no matter what.
((( j )))