I was just like you, looking for answers, trying to get her to talk, etc. But it wasn't until I left her alone that things cooled down enough that she could be comfortable around me again.
That's the ticket, guys! The goal should not be about getting answers to your questions. Some day, you can find out about all that. But right now....your goal should be to keep an atmosphere where she can relax and begin to feel comfortable. When she can do that, then she will began to "trust" herself (and you) to unwind and act more natural instead of this cold, hateful "wall" she's put up around herself. That is why I encourage you all to watch funny movies and keep things "light hearted".
Later, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
