Funny, when the conversation is dating, everyone says, "you are married til you are divorced." So, when the subject is doing things with your spouse, why be confused? The same thing applies. You are married til you are divorced. Go to dinner, go to the movies, go camping with friends, you are a married couple, that's who you should go with. How is this different than the other discussion?
I like this. Anytime I could do something that spoke to my W's LLs I was all over it. I would take any opportunity to spend time with my wife while we were seperated. It started with meeting in the park to dinner to going to a concert. The concept of being married while seperated/limboland is "acting as if." Make yourself irresistible. Forget the limbo, the hurtful words, the D papers, and make sure she sees that you are worth another chance and if not then it's her loss. I didn't want to have any regrets that I didn't do my best so I would try anything. Some of it blew up some of it was priceless. Nothing was going to deter me. I was confused at times, tired, scared and lonely. But I was not going to go down without giving it my best shot, then I knew it was not meant to be. You are still married until the final bell. You two have a history,stories,family, connection, and familiarity. It takes time to develop a relationship like that. Don't discount what you do have. I wore my ring because I was still married. The idea of being married made boundaries very easy. I was also very aware of D papers and seperation I was dealing with. I just made my mind up to handle it with strength and honor. Hardest thing I ever had to do. Also the most rewarding thing I have ever done. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
