So true, my H too believes that being he has told me he no longer wants to be married that no matter how he acts, loving, sexual it in no way means there is a chance to stay together. If I have ever felt there was some real progress with my DB'ing and H was responding well; he would no sooner make it clear that he still wanted a divorce. Sometimes I think H is convinced that I will wake up, accept what is happening be his friend and still hang out in the future with our new mates. He feels our bond is strong enough to endure this and remain best friends, that I agree this will be the best outcome for both of us and I indeed will be happier on my own. And, on my end I keep thinking the longer he stays and acts loving toward me he won't be able to walk out that door.
I guess we both are just knocking our heads against the wall, so detahing is really the healthy way to go forward. No doubt my roller coaster ride is going to make me sick soon unless I get off.
Take care and thanks for writing, Chel M 42 H 41 M 16 ys. Togeher 20 yrs. No kids, 1 cat Bomb 5/16/09 D papers unsigned in H's corner
