You have found a great resource in this website. There are many people here who can help you and who will provide support.
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I must admit - I'm a bit lost. I understand mistakes I've made - I'm working to become a better man as I'm fully aware that at some point I got lost. I'm rediscovering myself again.
At the same time friends are saying 'if she doesn't love you - it won't work'.
Can I still save it?
Yes, it is still possible to save the M. But, I won't lie to you, it will not be easy and it will take some time, possibly a long time.
Have you read DB or DR yet? If not, get one or both of those books, read them, and live them. Sounds like you have by your statement about GAL'ing.
As far as listening to your firneds, understand that your friends want you to stop hurting as soon as possible. So, while their intentions are in the right place, they may not be providing you good guidance. My favorite saying on taking "advice" from friends is "Don't confuse support with advice." Friends provide support.Only you know your M.
Was your W having a PA while you two were married? Is that still going on? It wasn't clear to me from your post.
