I think I will try that Pup. Don't know how feasible it is but we think about that b/c we do need time to work on us and that is the last thing she wants and she will try everything to not make that happen. The thing is H's son just loves him tons and I don't want to make the boy feel that sense of rejection that I elt - it hurts too much, so I do want his son to be able to call him when he wants to talk to him. Just not her callingfor any reason - so its kinda sticky. So I'm looking for suggestions on ways to limit contact while still caring for the boy.
Doodles, we were at a mall in the city. And there has been times that H has wanted to be done with ow. Changed his # several times but he ends up back there. In the past I didn't enforce the boundaries but he wasn't receptive to the boundaries either. he thinks that the amount of time that he spent away has something to do with it as well. But this time, I know I am different!!! I know what I've endured and I don't want to put myself back into that situation again. In a way, it's either he ships up or ship out.
About the taking it slow, its like I said to H, he's on probation right now so he gotta prove himself.
