You wrote: "He has never really come clean with his actions, but instead continues to justify it all, that "it had to happen this way," because of me"
I wonder how often he says it is because of you, and how often YOU ADD that part in your own head. Either way, the truth of the matter is very likely something like:
"It has to happen this way because of HIM."
Clearly, you were willing and able to do things differently. Unfortunately, you can't control whether he was willing or able. And, if you really listen to him, what he is telling you is that he was not willing NOR able to do things differently. That lies within him, not you. But LISTEN to it. BELIEVE him. Consider him to be someone so broken that what he did was the best he could do, as messed up as it was. It is really very very sad that it was the best he could do, that he was so broken that he could not do things differently. Do you see that?
