PS - Wish I could have the courage to tough love the H!
It's because you are afraid of what his response mightbe. With your daughter you were willing to live with either outcome (stay at home or leave and become financially independent) - detach/drop the rope is the antidote. You can handle it once you stop being fearful, love yourself enough to take healthy, positive action for you and your family. You are being called to lead your marriage out of limbo. Remember tough love is loving. Fear is the opposite of love. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
