So I haven't updated in a long time but tons has happened in my thread that I needed to share with you guys. Any advice is surely welcomed.
So first off don't know what happened but the guy that I met has kinda disappeared on me. Don't know what happened. But I was really digging him. But I guess all things work together for good.
So H has been surprising me lately. So you know H moved back to his mothers place. And I know he wishes he could just come back home but no - taking it cautiously slow. So on Sunday we had our first date. I called him out of the blue and he was shocked and really happy. He asked me out right away - you wanna go someplace. He then took me to a pier overlooking the Manhattan skyline that we use to go to in our teenage dating years. It was a relly nice time. We were able to talk talk talk. H can't stop about how he messed up and all he knows is taht he wants his wife back and he wants to treat me good like when we first met etc. He even talked about all the dates he wants to take me out to. And he knows that he's hurt me and he wants to fis things etc. I kept telling him that I want to take things slow and make sure that he is on soldi ground. Funny thing is taht before our sep I wanted a child so badly and H knew it, so now he's talking about if we get back together when would I want to start a family and I was able to say that I want to wait b/c I want to make sure things are right between us. And guess what with all th DB work H also said that he feels more relax with me b/c I'm not so eager (ie pursuing). We actually had a good time and felt time we were just dating again. We also talked about what would be needed to work things out and he said that he wants us to make the decisions together and he's going to listen to me. Taht was really nice compared to him doing whatever he wants. I insisted though that I need time to make sure he's not being wishy washy.
Then yesterday H an I had to take care of some business about of bldg. Afterward, he took me out to lunch and we went to the mall a bit. He was trying to spend the whole day with me (even wanted to go with me to my dental appt in the afternoon) but then he had to go to work. Our appointment was about our bldg foreclosure and H felt so bad that we may lose the bldg. He said that its all my fault. But I surely am changing too b/c H wanted me to pay for parking and I just refused to. I want to be wined and dined like all the ow fools he's been spending his $$ on... shoot I deserve it better than ow.
So then last night I got home and noticed that all the power in the house was out only to realized that a tree fell in the back of the house. Barely missed the house thank heavens. I was so worried - my home could have caught on fire. I had to call H to take care of it. And he came over adn stayed with me, we called the power authority and they had to run new power lines to restore the power. H was so happy to be able to rescue me and it was nice to have his protection.
This mornign I brought up to him about his communication with ow trying to get at the limited contact thign. I was going to list my demands and then I said no I want to know how you want to handle this and he said no lets just discuss this and make the decisions together b/c I don't want to have to do things twice by me doing it wrong and tehn we have to correct things. I loved that. And he was very receptive to me telling him that he has to break the communication that he I need this thing with her to starve and die out. I even got to tell himthat that is one of the things I need him to put into proper order before we are even back together again. He had said that he told her to call him if she needs anything for their son. But guess what - we did that before and she always needs something. I told him that he needs to have a weekend schedule with son and each live their own lives. Will see how it all goes.
I gotta say though I think a lot of this with H has happened b/c H could tell that I was really interested in that guy and he knew I ws trying to move on. I really hope that he's just not tryign to get me back to cake eat and then I have to do the work again to dig myself out and move on. He assures me thought that he's not that really just wants his wife back. Will see.
So what you guys think? Any piecing advice? I'm trying to go slow with this?
