I've been technically living in limbo for 18 months, and have been actively DB'ing for eight months. The DB'ing has helped the most in creating a calm atmosphere, however, I'm not able to detach from the emotions of the rejection. I've tried everything everyone has told me, and come up w/failure on this front, and a lot of f'in kleenex balls in the garbage. It's just so frustrating because we really get along well, function great as a parental/family unit. The husband/wife part is where he/WE fall short. He is here for the kids. Period.
So, this living in limbo is (in his eyes) perfect for him. He gets to keep his family, have his laundry done, eat his favorite dinners, but not have to "commit" to anything more emotionally/physically. He's been under a ton of stress (financially/IRS man calling), and it appears we're starting to work out of it. (WE LIVE LARGE! Not so fun anymore)
So, this living in limbo is pure misery for me.
Where's my courage?
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
