Yes, definitely go out Orich. Since our relationship tsunami I`ve regularly got all dressed up just to go to the movies on my own! And dropped by the 24 hr supermarket afterwards to read magazines-just to make H think I`m having a great long night out.Oh and I`ve had nights out with gfs too.
Anyway, its good to get your head out of the home and kids too.
You said in an earliet post that W`s sister was only told recently about your sitch. I figure that girl knows a lot more-and for a lot longer.Women talk!Especially sisters!
But don`t involve her-or at least keep it minimal. Keep your lovingly detached face for her too. Don`t expect support from W`s family-they`re job is to support their sibling first and they`ll close ranks soon enough if D is on the cards.
Its good that your having that family trip though and good that your SIL will babysit.
I swear this time last year my sitch was woeful-and got a lot worse!
I`m so much happier in myself now because or LRT techniques, GAL and my therapist. And, like you, I`m seeing a teeny spark of hope. I had thought my H should have been doing the work since he_in my mind-caused all the problems but me changing me has brought me happiness, even though our M is far from sorted.
Keep up your terrific chances. And keep on hoping. A lot of Melanie Beattie`s stuff re co-depency is worth looking into. I`ve found it particularly useful to shine the light on my part in the relationship downfall.
