There is no excuse to lie and cheat on a spouse. NONE! If you are unhappy, get out. Be grownup enough to get out on your own. Don't be a wimp and glom on to someone else because you can't stand on your own damn two feet and say how you feel.
Hallelujah, Raise the Rafters..
It takes two for a marriage to fall apart, often through worsening communication skills. Fear's Medusa head rising can plunk many an ostrich to bury theirs in the sand. "We're just weathering the storm."
Unhappiness and apathy go hand in hand, as does settling rather than actively reaching a compromise. We're all here because we're human and hurting. Our spouses are in the same boat. Our actions, their actions all cause hurt, many times irreparable damage.
Standing on my own two feet, pulling on my big girl panties means seeing both sides of the picture and letting it go.
Divorce sucks. Being emotionally and financially devastated sucks. Having a guy who chooses to have minimal contact with his kids sucks.
We shared twenty five years of the good bad and ugly. Unfortunately what was wonderful did not outweigh what didn't work for him. I'm glad for what we shared, the amount of time we shared and wish him well in the future.
Now it's my turn to face my flaws and embrace my strengths and live a life of growth, caring sans procrastination and caving to fears.
