A Wife that has come back? Post Affair feelings ,,

[wolverine1997]

"I think she made up her mind to be married to her husband. And I believe the affair is over. It can happen!"

Are you serious? Didn't she make up her mind to be married to her husband prior to the affair also, like on their wedding day?

He has every right to be suspicious as to whether or not the baby is his. She created that doubt with her actions. She needs to settle his mind on that issue.

He is not de-stabilizing the marriage by questioning her actions, she did that herself with the affair. Regardless of whatever problems they were having prior to the affair, she totally eroded all trust and faith when she cheated. Now it is true that for the marriage to succeed he must begin to trust her but for that to happen SHE must re-assure him and do everything she can to help him to believe and see that he can trust her. By making excuses, keeping the guy around and maintaining a friendship with him, she is doing nothing more than telling her husband that he can't trust her.

And yes, he may want to stay married, but who wants to give up their dignity, trust, self respect and heart just to stay married? If she wants to stay married then she needs to prove to him without a shadow of a doubt that the OM is no longer a threat to their marriage. If she wants to stay married then she may have to choose between her business client or her marriage. These types of decisions, while difficult, are called reaping what you have sown and are the fruits of bad decisions.