H was home, in a superb mood, loved dinner, another few hours of fog clearing, etc... Took the family, plus D18's out on the boat for an hour or so once it got dark. Fun.
I told D18 the friends could come over, but they had to leave by 11:30pm, as I had to be up early. 10:30pm comes along and D18 comes upstairs by me and says, "Dad says the kids can stay until midnight, so they are." I tell her they're not, since DAD is leaving to go back out of town within minutes, wont' be around to supervise, and I told you that I have to be up early. (minimal squabble)
11:40pm comes around... D18 is not answering her phone (I was already in jammies and didn't want to go enforce time to leave.) They finally leave five minutes later. D18 comes up and throws a complete fit re: being grounded for not having a job (had been warned to get one since April, but she was too busy attending 3 proms, grad stuff, etc...), can't wait to move out (supposedly moving to an apartment w/two friends, and attending local college - BECAUSE her grades didn't stay intact to attend EIU this fall), and will never have to see me or talk to me then. I told her that that is fine, but if you're going to be that rude to someone just trying to make you a productive and decent adult, you can handle the funding of your education on your own, as well. And, feel free to move out now, if you're so miserable. She goes into her room, starts packing stuff, slamming, etc... I tell her that we were very supportive of her moving out, assisting is "stuff" to fill the apartment, helping w/banking etc... But, since you're leaving early, under these circumstances, while fighting, you need to leave your phone, your computer, your house keys, and you can only take the clothes on your back. "Fine!" Swear swear grumble, slam...
And, she's gone...
I called H, slightly crying, more mad. Tell him what happened w/out too much emotion/drama. He said that I did the right thing. She'll be back tomorrow, after she realizes she can't live like she is without our support. She just needs a dose of reality.
So, there we are folks.
Does it ever end? Kids!!!
PS - Don't think I'm awful for letting her go. She has about 10 best friends in the immediate neighborhood, whose friends are ours. She probably went to one of their homes, but all will support us, and not let her stay.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
