Originally Posted By: healthydad
..and often - almost always - that anger reveals something to me that I can work on in myself...


True, True....

But D@mn hard to do...

It's that chain that is so hard to break:

- I believe something is wrong (which it may or may not be - but at that point I believe it is)

-- and I take it personally (which I probably should not, because it is probably not truly about me)

---and then I have an emotional response to it (which is probably an overreaction on my part due to some long ago hurt)

So you have to get past the emotions and think:
- Is this thing which has been done really wrong?
--Is it really about me? Why am I taking it personally?
---Why does it feel so bad? Am I really reacting to this thing at this time? or am I reacting to something else? something unrelated?

I find I can't do this when I am angry. I can only go through these thoughts later.

really hard!!

Last edited by Thinker; 07/09/09 02:25 PM.
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