"So this works for when you want to take time off at the end of the month. I will be glad to let you have the kids then. We are splitting the kids 7 days out of 14 just like we agreed. Just trying to be flexible and coordinate schedules in advance. I would like to have the kids during ________ and you can have them during __________ when you have vacation. If you are not taking vacation then we can keep the regular schedule. I am going to request the time off for me then. This would be good for the kids. Those are my plans."
If she tries to push it back on you about you having them on your days off just say, "Me having the kids on days off is irrelevant, this is a part of 50/50 custody agreement which I am happy to agree with. Sorry you feel that way." Then exit. Don't take the bait. This is the reality of what she asked for, these are consequences. She doesn't have to go along with what you want either if it's not part of the agreeement so don't get upset if she says no.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
