OK, cool. That was actually my reaction to her. She said it, I said to just let me know of the date so I can be home with the kids, and left it at that. She didn't say anything afterwards.
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In fact, at this point, I would advise you to try to do a complete "180" and show COMPLETE AND UTTER INDIFFERENCE to anything like this. I'm sure she could tell how it bothered you in the past, and you have spoken your peace about it. I would do a "180" now and be like "ok, whatever."
DO make sure she's communicating with you, and not being rude or disrespectful when she TALKS to you, but other than that . . . let her be. This will be healthier for YOU, and there's a reason why I'm advocating it.
Believe me, my attitude when I asked the date, etc. was very matter-of-fact. So far since Tuesday night she has been talking to me like a friend again. I don't initiate texts or phone calls to her like I used to. I am trying that agape love approach, where I still love her, but in a way where I don't expect love back. I do feel like I should get some advice about separation and child custody, just in case. She seemed pretty angry when we spoke that night, so just in case she is getting her own advice, I should have what I need to protect me. I hate that it has come to this, but I have to face reality.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Absolutely, you should do that. It never hurts to know what your rights and options are, and it can be very empowering. It doesn't mean you have to ACT on any of it.
A good family law attorney, preferably one who specializes in "men's rights" and paternal custody issues would be ideal.
Right, thats the idea. Just have the information in case it is needed later.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
I hate how it has now come to my W asking me if I care if she does things, when it really doesn't matter if I care or not. Similar to what you are talking about, they are going to do what they want at this point regardless. Our feelings don't really matter, unless we disagree with what they are going to do, then they just get pissed and do it anyway.
My W doesn't even ask if I care, she just goes ahead and tells me she is doing it, assuming I will stay home with the kids. I have told her on several occasions that I was busy on a night she wanted to go out, and she had to get a sitter (one that I knew, of course). The really crappy thing is the next day, she'll post lots of pictures of herself and her friends having a great time on Facebook the next day. Then I get calls wondering where I am in the pictures. I used to like FB, now I don't visit it at all.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
What you should do Orich is hire a sitter yourself when you are going out regardless of her plans. When she is not going out she will probably feel like an idiot when she has no plans to leave and a sitter shows up at the door.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
