There is no excuse to lie and cheat on a spouse. NONE! If you are unhappy, get out. Be grownup enough to get out on your own. Don't be a wimp and glom on to someone else because you can't stand on your own damn two feet and say how you feel.
Ahmen!!
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.