If I were to cast blame on technology as a cause of my STBXH's infidelity, I also would have to admit that without it we would have never met. Would I want to be living in the past without my blackberry, internet, and facebook? I don't think so. I have made some genuine friends from it that I would have never met otherwise. It is almost like everyone wants to put the blame on technology because it makes us feel better than to place the blame squarely where it should reside and that is on the shoulders of the WAS. Opportunity or not, they made the conscious decision to step outside of their marriage. They said I do and then didn't. I don't care what anyone else says. I can take responsibility for my part of where my relationship is, but I will never ever take responsibility for him stepping out and cheating. There is no excuse to lie and cheat on a spouse. NONE! If you are unhappy, get out. Be grownup enough to get out on your own. Don't be a wimp and glom on to someone else because you can't stand on your own damn two feet and say how you feel. smile I'm not bitter. Really I am not. LoL!

"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."