Ahhh, Mermaid, you are right, Dick is a very angry and hostil man. Just yesterday morning (July 7) Dick ran to the boys room, turned the light on at 4:00am. S, thinking that Jane's S left the light on, merely got up from the floor (yes, he sleeps on the floor) and shut the light off, and went back to sleep on the floor. Dick ran back to their room, flicked the light on, grabbed S, shook him then threw him into Jane's S. He looked at them both and said "Expect it gentlement, expect it."
Why was Dick angry? Because the boys, the night before were up watching a scary movie. They were up past midnight, S in four months will be 18, Jane's S almost 15 and it is summer vacation, so being up after midnight would be normal for most teens... Anyway, after the scary movie ended, Jane's S went into the bathroom, so S decided he'd scare J's S when he crossed the bathrooms threshold.... J's S let out a scream.
Pretty normal stuff, and most parents of mixed families would be happy if not proud the two boys were getting along.... oh, no, not Dick. He was pissed! Why? Because he was startled by the scream....
Instead of checking on the boys then, or getting up to ask the boys what happened or to quiet down, dick laid in bed, wide awake stewing over the "noise" the boys made. So, by the time his alarm went off, Dick claims he only had two hours sleep, and it was their fault.
It's more than obvious that Dick is no parent, doesn't have a parenting gene in his body. All it would have taken was a gentle reminder to the kids that others are sleeping, and to try to keep it quiet. Just a little understanding, that's all.
Now, the boys have to be in bed by 8:00pm, Dick's law, and he's taken away S's phone. Now S and I can't talk. S won't be able to vent to me, as he has for the past two months. I can't help him look towards tomorrow, or make sense or find peace with what is going on.... his anger will be building, possibly excalate to where he challenges or confronts Dick.
I've sent Dick a proposal, one where the children are asked where they want to live. If they choose to live with me, he can keep his "no support" order, and won't be financially responsible for either child, ever again.
He doesn't want them, he just doesn't want me to have them. Snodderly is right, he wants us all as miserable as he is. He is reliving his childhood, he has become his father, treating S just as he was treated himself. It's obvious he won't learn from what he is doing, he can't open his mind nor his heart the pain he is causing, because all he can see is himself and his own pain.
