he was back, i think

[Stronger]

Well, unfortunately, the blues are going to hit you and there's not much you can do to stop it. This SUCKS and that's all there is to it.

You can only keep so busy in any given day. So there are going to be those dark times. Then, get out the pad of paper and the pen and write down all you do have to be grateful for, that always helps me.

[mdoodles]

yes, this does suck. totally.

i need a new short term goal. cant figure one out though.

i was just reading Divorce Remedy again, the do something different part...not sure what else to do though.

[mdoodles]

someone on the mlc board posted a link to the website www.midlifecrisisadvocate.com. below is a terrific link to an article about infidelity and the role of the ow.


http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/betrayed-dealing-with-infidelity-Part3.html

[bluerain]

Hi doodles,
Have you come up with a new goal yet? Is there anything that you ever wanted to learn to do? I cant remember, but didnt you have an unfinished degree? Forgive me if Im wrong. Ive always kind of wanted to learn to be a pastry chef.

I used to go to a coffee shop in my hometown that served tomato bagels, they were awesome! When you open your bagel store, you should serve them!

[mdoodles]

i have a business degree, in marketing....funny that u want to be a pastry chef, i have been slowly starting a cookie business!

became too taxing on me after my several month bout with shingles...

so guess who sent another text today, while h was here --pyscho ow.

i deleted it. i didnt hear my phone beep though, happened to check it after he left.

called the phone company, she is getting past the call block by sending the messages through the computer!

which only confirms, as if we didnt know, that she used the computer last week to send him messages with my number!

i only wish i would have seen the message when h was here, maybe i would have been brave enough to check it. or atleast stick the phone in his face.

i bet she sends messages to herself from my number.

anyway, i called h after he left to tell him im getting messages. he had nothing to say but what can i tell u, and then told me to change my number.

which wont matter because she will get my number out of his phone from when she searches his calls.

whats her deal? trouble in paradise?

[mdoodles]

i must say, im upset...i mean, i think something must be up with them if she is consistently trying to reach me.

but either way, he left and is most likely with her now.

maybe they fight, maybe they arent happy, but he is there.

and not here.

[whatdidido]

Hmmmm....she could be threatening him that she will tell you something that he doesn't want you to know.

[mdoodles]

im thinking she is just lashing out actually, and i think this because she started last week with the texting my husband through the computer using my phone number.

i think she is looking to get him angry with me, looking to get rid of me, looking to provoke me and get me to call her.

i never heard so much from her, all year it was sporadic.

it kinda tells me trouble in paradise.

[bluerain]

Definately sounds like trouble for them. She wouldnt be going out of her way to make you look bad/crazy/whatever if all was well. I guess you should just make sure to save your phone bill. I dont think that you should change your number, I agree that she will acquire your number and keep right on. Is there any legal recourse you can take? Is this stalking?

[mdoodles]

i dont know yet if i can do anything legally. i am keeping track of her attempted contact and have in writing what she did with my phone number.

perhaps if i read the messages i would know if she is saying anything harassing but at this time, i dont wish to see or hear what she has to say.

everyone is telling me to read the messages, including my in-laws and brother in-law (husband's brother).

i just dont want to.