I can imagine that you would be weary of this go 'round. I think counseling can be highly overrated and sometimes detrimental. Your H is doing the 'work'...he's having a hard time with his 'feelings' and that's normal.
Why don't YOU get the help...and I'd suggest Laurie here....not for $$$ reasons, but she really is an expert and wonderful at this....and if you push him to the counseling....you may wear out the love he has left. At the end of the day...it's the two of you that need to build more joy, more love together....not work on changing something about him.
What are the things that give him joy.....you just do them. What are the things that give you joy? you just do them.
More counseling is more depressing and less joyful....it's more of the one on one...fix him thing. After all the counseling is done.....what you will have to do, is figure out what are the fun things, the loving things you can do together....NOT what things you have to get out of the way before you can do those things together.
Just do them. Don't talk about them. Just do them. Take him by the hand and go to a movie. Or go bowling. Or whatever it is. Life is way too short.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
