It's not that you are are casting the M in a negative light. Some "facts is facts"...For instance, he's gone, he doesn't live at home, his financial plans suck, or don't exist except borrowing from YOUR folks, he lives well himself, and oh, he is with OW.
And he blames you for bringing any "unpleasantness" up b/c evidently this living sitch should be...what?? "Fine" -with you? Does he know that there are NO women in this nation who think this sitch is just "fine"? Does he know that slavish women in the Middle East would not find this arrangement "fine"? (FYI that's literally true come to think of it.) He's being what used to be called a "scoundrel" or a "Cad" and brothers or fathers used to have them beat up for this. Or worse. Publications and ruination...etc.
So, no, you are not "casting" him or the sitch in a bad light. I didn't mention his other behaviors, just said some facts. And they are the ugly truth.
It really sucks to see it in writing some times and I know this from experience but it is what clicked for me, and then I changed. And so did "it" and so far that has been a good thing. It's the truth - so it has to be faced at some point. Why not now? LIfe is so short.
((( j )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
