Hey Db, that sounds like a tough day. Sorry to hear it. My wife and I are going through a thing too... We're getting along ok, but I am into my 8th month of separation. I hope your sep is productive for both of you. We have a D-day set in October...I don't know her position as she's taken no steps towards speeding things up (she filed back in November) - but not knowing is hard to live with too... Take care of yourself, and hang in there. I don't know where my sitch will end up, but I have definitely seen some improvements thanks to DBing...
Me: 46 W: 46 M: 9.5 yrs D4, D9 D filed by her 11/3/08 Agrees to try rec at mediation 1/28/09 Says she still wants D in counseling 3/25/09 W and I back in DB counseling (!) 8/20/09 3rd Bomb 9/2/09